October 10, 2008

Perhaps things aren't meant to be...

There are times when all you want is to say goodbye, even though it's not yet time to say goodbye; or let go when things aren't supposed to be let go. There are moments when you feel like leaving, and will leave if not for some circumstances that prevent you from doing so, circumstances that tell you that the time is not right.

But when is the right time? And if ever this time should come, how will you know?

Two things people tend to do when things don't turn out as expected: we either find something or someone to blame or we just attribute whatever happened to destiny and say "it wasn't meant to be." The first reaction, looking for something to blame, is mostly common, but there are times when there is nothing to blame so we simply resign ourselves to thinking that whatever we wanted was not meant for us or that "the time isn't right." However unhappy we may be of what has become of our efforts, we choose to wallow in the failure of not achieving our goals.

Therein lies the problem, because we chose... we chose not to do anything. We chose to stay put and accept that destiny did not include what we wanted in her plans for us; we say "who are we to go against the will of the cosmos?" Yet what we don't realize is that we are always given a choice.

Everything that has ever happened in our lives is because of the choices we've made, not because they were destined to be so. Whatever we do and whatever happens to us, we have a choice and those choices are always ours to make, thus we cannot blame anyone else, but ourselves.

Not even destiny.

Destiny is no matter of chance. It is a matter of choice. It is not a thing to be waited for, it is a thing to be achieved.

William Jennings Bryan
US lawyer, orator, & politician (1860 - 1925)

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